Contact – late or absent [witnessed by nursery proprietor June Flack and nursery staff and also Church supervisors.]  Also medical matters.

EVIDENCE OF GARETH WILLIAMS’ NEVER-ENDING BLATANT BREACHES OF ALL COURT ORDERS.

15/9/02 [Sunday] GW phoned the church to say that both J & M were ill [with diarrhoea.]

NO CONTACT.

18/9/02 GW 15 minutes late.

20/9/02 GW 25 minutes late.  [He said J & M were late leaving school.]

22/9/02 [Sunday] NO CONTACT in church.  GW did not notify me or church.  A church supervisor left a message on his mobile.  He didn’t return her call.  I waited 1hour 20 minutes.  [On 23/9/02 he told me he’d been ill, he’d lost his voice and couldn’t phone.]

23/9/02 GW 15 minutes late.  He said it was because J & M had to do extra lessons because they are so far behind.

25/9/02 GW almost 15 minutes late.

27/9/02 GW 20 minutes late.  Only JORDAN came.  He said Melly was ill with vomiting.  Jordan was sick in nursery.  He went back to GW’s early [around 5.30pm.]  GW said Mel was off school on 26^th and 27^th September.  NO CONTACT WITH MEL.

30/9/02 NO CONTACT.  GW did not notify me or nursery. I waited 1hour 10 minutes.  [On 1/10/02 GW said that J & M were ill.  He said he couldn’t phone because he couldn’t speak.  He pointed to his swollen glands – at conference.]

4/10/02 GW 10 minutes late.

6/10/02 [Sunday] GW 30 minutes late.  I asked him why.  He told me it was none of my business.

7/10/02 GW 15 minutes late.  Mel’s bum very red and sore looking.  Jordy’s ears are filthy.

9/10/02 GW on time!  Mel’s bum is still very red and sore.

11/10/02 GW 5 minutes late.  I asked why he hadn’t kept Jordan’s eye appointment earlier today.  He said it was none of my business.  Jordan said his “wee wee” hurt.

13/10/02 [Sunday] NO CONTACT.  No message to me or church.  I waited 1 hour 10 minutes.  On 14/10/02 GW said that the church leader wasn’t there to supervise it.  [The leader had told us the previous week that he’d be absent.  He said to us both that others would be there to supervise us – Rob, Ken, Rhian.]  I told him that the supervision is to ensure that Andy isn’t there and that I don’t leave the building.

15/10/02 I spoke with social worker Brian Bibby about my worries regarding Melly’s sore and red bottom, Jordan complaining that his “wee wee” hurt, his filthy ears, Melissa being taken into GW’s bed.  Brian agreed that GW shouldn’t be doing that.  I told him that I don’t want to be accused of ‘tit for tat’ but Linzi, a carer in the nursery had also seen her inflamed bum which was getting worse and June of the nursery and my solicitor advised me to tell social services.  Brian said he would refer it to Ian Turner.  He also said he would remind Ian to send me my files.

16/10/02 GW 10 minutes late.  Both J & M have bad colds and coughs.  Mel still has sore bum.  GW said he has taken both of them to the doctors and he has medicine.  According to the medical records neither J or M saw the doctor. 

18/10/02 J & M still have bad coughs.

21/10/02 GW 20 minutes late.  He apologised and said there had been a crash.  Jordan said he’d seen the ambulance.  J & M have bad coughs.  Melly has a runny nose.  [Carolyn and Jo commented on their coughing fits.]

1/11/02 GW 10 minutes late.  [When he is late he usually tells me it’s none of my business when I ask why.]

3/11/02 [Sunday] GW 35 minutes late.  He did leave a message on the church answerphone to say he’d overslept.  Church closed at 12.40pm.

4/11/02 NO CONTACT.  At 4pm the nursery told me that he’d just phoned to tell them that his car alternator had broken down.  Why didn’t he use the bus?  [He could’ve told the nursery that he’d be late.]  On 6/11/02 he told me that his car had broken down in the morning.  I asked why he didn’t use the bus.  He said “get lost.  No chance.”

8/11/02 Jordan had his eye test.  GW was abusive and threatening.  This was witnessed by the Orthoptist and receptionist.  I barely uttered a word towards him, which was also witnessed by staff.  Later he phoned nursery to say there would be no contact because he had to take Mel to the doctors.  He told them that he forgot to tell me this morning at eye clinic.  [At the hospital he had said to me that as I had already played with Jordan in the waiting room for around 15-20 minutes, I’D HAD MY CONTACT.]  NO CONTACT.  According to the medical records Mel did not see the doctor. 

10/11/02 [Sunday] GW informed the church that he would be there at 10 am i.e. 30 minutes late.  When he arrived he told me that he couldn’t get Melly out of bed.  I asked about Friday; what was wrong with Mel.  He said she was ill and had to see the doctor to get some ‘medicine’.  [Mel told me that she didn’t see the doctor and that she didn’t go to school.]  Mel had a runny nose for the whole of the church session.  Jordan said he didn’t feel well.

11/11/02 Just before 3pm the nursery phoned to tell me that they’d just had a message from GW that he wouldn’t be bringing J & M for contact.  He did not give a reason.  The school told me that J & M did not attend today.  They did not know why.  [The medical records show that Mel saw the GP for a chesty cough.  Sudofed was given.]  NO CONTACT.

13/11/02 I waited 45 minutes at the nursery.  GW did not turn up and did not phone me or nursery.  NO CONTACT.

On Thursday 14/11/02 June told me that GW had visited her at 2pm on Monday 11/11/02 to tell her that I had taken J & M out of church on Sunday [i.e. breach of court order] and so he wouldn’t be bringing them for contact on Monday and that he didn’t know when they would be in again.  Ivor told me [14/11/02] that GW had told him that he can’t trust me now.  Ivor said that GW had reported the incident to the police.  Ivor said he has written to June saying he wants to be in the same room as us in nursery because he’s worried I might take J & M out.  June said she hasn’t seen such a letter or heard anything from Amphletts.  Ivor told me [14/11/02] that when he saw J & M at GW’s house on Tuesday 12/11/02 Mel was lying on his couch ill.  She had a bad cough.  Ivor said that she was off school for at least part of the day.  [Head Geraint Williams said that J & M were IN school on Tuesday.  He said they were “ill” on Monday.]  Later 3 church witnesses signed statements and June Flack confirmed in writing that I had not broken the court order; GW was again proved to be the liar and the one who breaches court orders.

15/11/02 I waited 50 minutes.  GW did not turn up.  He has not contacted nursery since Monday.  NO CONTACT.

17/11/02 I was at church from 9.30 am until 12.20 pm.  GW did not leave a message at church.  NO CONTACT.

18/11/02 I waited 25 minutes at nursery.  No messages.  Nursery had not been contacted by GW either.  NO CONTACT.

20/11/02 I waited 25 minutes at nursery.  June hasn’t heard a dickie bird.  NO CONTACT.

22/11/02 I waited 25 minutes at nursery.  June has heard nothing.  NO CONTACT.

26/11/02 Melissa was seen by the GP.  Amoxycillin/Sudafed given.

2/12/02 Amphletts wrote “we were with our client for a considerable period of time on 28/11/02.  Our client has now specifically instructed us that contact will now be reinstated with accordance with the terms of the order made 17/9/02.  Our client instructs us that contact will re-commence in accordance with the order week commencing 2/12/02 and OBVIOUSLY the week-end contact will be over the week-end of 6/12/02.

Our client instructs us that the reason that he considered that contact was inappropriate to continue was because of his fears that your client had taken the children away from the church.”

4/12/02 I waited with Shell for 45 minutes.  GW did not leave a message with nursery.  NO CONTACT.

5/12/02 Melissa was admitted to hospital – unwell/rash.  Diagnosis – respiratory [chest] viral.

6/12/02 I waited for 25 minutes at nursery.  No messages.  NO CONTACT.

8/12/02 I waited at church for an hour and a half.  No messages.  NO CONTACT.

9/12/02 Shelly and I waited 30 minutes at nursery.  No messages.  NO CONTACT.

12/12/02 In the CAFCASS office Mel had a cough.  The welfare officer Ivor told me that GW has an appointment with the doctor at 4pm for her.  This was the first contact session since 10/11/02 i.e. a gap of 4 weeks 4 days.  Mel was seen by the GP.  Sudafed allergy – chest.

13/12/02 GW on time at nursery!  He gave June orders that one of the carers had to take Melly to the loo.   Mel had a bad cough in nursery.

15/12/02 I waited at church for 1 hour.  No messages.  NO CONTACT.

17/12/02 GW on time!  Mel still has a bad cough.  Sharron in nursery commented on it.

20/12/02 At the nursery party, J & M were both coughing.  Melly coughed more so.  She is also looking very thin.  She did not eat much at the party, only half a bag of crisps and one sweet.  [At nursery she eats a lot of the food that I take.]  She drank a lot of my lemon though.

23/12/02 GW on time!  Mel still had her cough.

20/1/03 Mel coughing at nursery.

24/1/03  Mel still has a cough.

27/1/03 Mel full of cold.

31/1/03 At 4pm June told me at nursery that GW hadn’t long phoned to inform her that J & M wouldn’t be coming because they had head lice.  She said that he has offered to bring them next Tuesday instead.  Why couldn’t he notify her sooner so that I could’ve been saved the journey?  Why couldn’t he phone me?  NO CONTACT.

3/2/03 Melissa is full of cold and has a bad cough again.

4/2/03  Melissa still has a cough.  I’ve noticed that every time she runs around or jumps about, she breaks into a coughing fit.    Jordan was worried sick about what his father would say because he had an accident and wet his trousers.  He told me that his dad will hit him and he kept saying that there will be trouble.  He said his dad hits him if he does anything wrong.

7/2/03  Melissa coughing constantly.  After running about she coughed and then vomited.

10/2/03 Melissa coughing a lot even though she was sitting still.  June commented on how bad it was.

13/2/03 Melissa saw the GP: Cough, esp at night and when running.  Treated with B2 agonists for assumed asthma.   Jordan also saw the GP: Earache.  Amoxycillin 125.

14/2/03 GW phoned nursery at 4pm to say that there would be no contact because Melly has swollen glands.  He told her that he was called in by the school to pick her up early because she was unwell.  He told June that I could see them on Tuesday [18/2/03] instead.  Social worker Pat and trainee social worker Joanna had turned up to observe the contact session.  NO CONTACT.

17/2/03 GW 15 minutes late.  He told me that Melissa has been diagnosed with Asthma.  He said he had just been to pick up her prescription and he showed me her inhaler.  Asthma is brought on by stress.  It is another symptom of Melissa’s inner torment i.e. that my children are suffering emotional abuse.  Melissa is looking skinnier than ever too.  GW was not aware of the court hearing tomorrow.  We agreed to check with solicitors.  Pete told me that we were not needed in court.  He said that Mr Hind had told GW not to turn up and that I wouldn’t be going to court either.  He contacted Mr Hind to tell GW to stick to the contact arrangements as planned.  According to the medical notes Melissa visited the Asthma clinic.  GW was 20 mins late arriving there.

18/2/03 I waited over an hour at nursery.  GW did not leave a message.  June tried to phone him but there was no reply.  She tried again after around 20 minutes.  He told her that he thought I’d gone to court.  He arranged to bring J & M 4-6pm instead.  Melissa was coughing constantly even when she was sitting still just doing a puzzle.  Since being with her abusive father her health has deteriorated.    I’m worried sick about her.  NO CONTACT at scheduled time.

20/2/03 Referral letters sent by Dr Laraman to Mr Zeitoun Consultant ENT Surgeon at Glan Clwyd for Jordan and Melissa.  Dr Laraman is concerned that Jordan may have a hearing loss.  Mel’s referral is re a recurrent upper respiratory tract infection.

28/2/03 Jo at nursery phoned me at 2.30pm to say that GW had just passed a message that he had to collect Jordan early from school because he’d been sick.  NO CONTACT.

3/3/03 Pat and Elaine turned up at nursery intending to observe contact at my house.  Melissa was ill.  GW said she had the flu. Jordan was full of cold.  He was coughing and had a runny nose.  In Pat’s car Melissa began crying so it was decided that contact at my house would take place another day.   Melissa would not come to me or Shell and GW took her back to his house leaving only Jordan for contact.  NO CONTACT with Mel.

7/3/03 I waited at nursery for about an hour.  There was NO CONTACT and no messages.  June had heard nothing either.  She tried to phone him but was unsuccessful.

10/3/03 J & M were both full of cold and coughing constantly.  I asked GW why he did not bring them for contact last Friday and why he hadn’t notified June.  He said that I would soon find out through my solicitor.  Elaine Buckley told me that GW had collected Melissa early from school on Tuesday 4/3/03 due to illness and that she was absent on Wednesday 5/3/03.

1/4/03 Pat and Joanne brought J & M to my house after collecting them from school.  Mel coughed constantly and Jordan has sticky eyes.  It looks like conjunctivitis.

3/4/03 Pat and Joanne observed contact at my house.  Jordan’s eyes are worse.  His eyelashes are full of thick green sticky discharge.  Pat had pointed it out to GW on 1/4/03 evening.  He had told her that he would take Jordan to the doctor.  Melly coughed constantly.  Pat was also concerned.  Excitement or an expenditure of energy brings on the coughing.

4/4/03 Jordan seen by GP:  Conjunctivitis.

15/4/03 Melly had an earache.  GW said that she had been up all night crying with a painful ear.  He said he was taking her to the doctor tomorrow.  Mel has gone so skinny again too. 

There is no record in the medical notes that he did take her to the GP.

17/4/03 During the night Mel coughed quite often and her breathing was very chesty. 

18/4/03  Melly fell ill during a day out at the zoo.  She had a raised temperature and was shivering for about an hour.  She also complained of a sore tummy and she wouldn’t eat.  We cut our trip short.   Charge nurse Sefton at Glan Clwyd hospital told me that there is a virus going around.  The advice was to keep Melly cool to lower her temperature and give her Calpol and plenty of fluids.  Later in the afternoon she felt better and began eating quite a lot and playing normally.

4/5/03 I was supposed to have contact at 10am and overnight through to 4pm on 5/5/03.  GW failed to bring my children.  At 10.40am I phoned GW.  He told me that J & M are saying that they don’t want to come and that they’ve been screaming and kicking and getting into a hell of a state every time he tried to get them into the car.  He let me speak to Jordan.  Jordan was very quiet and very guarded.  I heard him ask his father what he should say.  His father asked him if he wanted to come to see me.  He said quietly “no”.  GW told him to tell me.  Jordan said, “I don’t want to come.”  His father then said, “Tell your mum why you don’t want to go.”  Jordan said nothing.  I heard GW say, “You’re dropping me in it, Jordan.”   Not long after, GW cut me off as I was trying to reassure Jordan.  NO CONTACT.

5/5/03 NO CONTACT.

13/5/03 At school Melissa’s teacher Mrs Price told me that Melly had an appointment at hospital at 10am   Apparently she has large tonsils which touch and she also has problematic adenoids.  She will probably need an operation to have them removed.  As a result of the examination she was sick.  GW told the school that she fell asleep afterwards so she didn’t return to school.  Only Jordan came for contact.  According to the medical records, GW obtained asthma inhalers – salbutamol and beclometasone     for Melissa.  NO CONTACT with Mel.

29/5/03 GW took Mel to GP.  The records state: Dry cough.  Worse after swimming.  Seen reports re chlorine in swimming pool water.  [GW had apparently told the GP that he had read something in a newspaper about chlorine in pools which had concerned him.]  Afebrile [pulse] ok, throat, ear, chest clear. 

16/5/03 GW took Jordan to the GP.  Verruca plantaris. 

31/5/03 I telephoned GW at 4pm and found out that he is at home.  He said he’d only just got back [after his week’s holiday].  He told me that he isn’t bringing J & M for contact today [Saturday] and that I have to wait until Tuesday.  I asked if I could speak to my children.  He refused and then hung up.  NO CONTACT.

10/6/03 I attended at Glan Clwyd Hospital for Jordan’s 9.40 am appointment with the ENT consultant re his hearing.  I had previously been informed of the appointment by Mr Zeitoun’s secretary Wendy Roberts who, after a phone conversation with Pat, had agreed that I was perfectly entitled to attend my children’s medical appointments.  GW did not arrive with Jordan until 11am.  He said that he had forgotten about the appointment.   GW said that the hospital had said that I wasn’t supposed to be there and he threatened to have me removed.  He would not allow Jordan to come to me or even acknowledge me and he sat the whole time with his arm around Jordan’s neck.  He refused to allow Jordan to play with the toys in the waiting room.  He asked Jordan if he wanted me there and Jordan was obliged to say that he didn’t.  He then went to the desk to try to have me removed but a member of staff Diane Neblett intervened on my behalf.   Jordan was very subdued and anxious.

12/6/03 Melissa was ill in the night.  She was coughing constantly and crying and complaining that her head hurt.  She and I had only 2/3 hours sleep.

15/6/03 Melissa ill in the night again.  She was crying in her sleep on and off for a few hours.  She complained that her legs and head hurt.  She coughed constantly.  On 16/6/03 it took a while to get her up.  She cried, saying that she didn’t want to go to school and she wouldn’t eat anything for breakfast.  Her stools were very loose.

17/6/03 I was told at school that Melissa was very sick yesterday and that she had a high temperature.  GW collected her at lunch time from school.  She was not in school today either.  NO CONTACT with Melly.  Only Jordan came.   Melissa was off school on 19^th and 20^th June also.  School told me she had a tummy bug.  Elaine Buckley told me on 27/6/03 that GW had taken Mel to A&E where she had been diagnosed with having tonsillitis.  She had a high temperature, back pain and pain when passing urine.   GW had told the hospital that I had injured Melissa when I allegedly ‘grabbed’ at her shoulders.

21/6/03 GW drove up to my house with the children and parked his car.  He got out, opened the back door, said something very briefly to the children, shut the door again and drove off.  This happened in a matter of seconds.  I ran out to try and flag him down for an explanation but he just drove off.  I tried to phone him but his older daughter said that he was unavailable.  I tried again later three times during the evening but each time somebody calling himself “Mark Hughes” answered.  He told me that I had the wrong number.  I didn’t.  I suspect that it was GW’s son-in-law, under the influence of GW, taunting me.  I was unable to speak with GW.   NO CONTACT.  [GW later stated via his solicitor on 27/6/03 that Melissa had deliberately picked her nose causing bleeding and that she was saying that she didn’t want to have contact with me.  On 27/6/03 Elaine told me that GW had made allegations to social services manager Terry James on 21/6/03 evening.  He had also referred me to the police.]   

22/6/03 NO CONTACT.

24/6/03  [Tuesday] Shelly and I went up to the school to watch Jordan’s and Melissa’s sports day.  I was told by Helen Woods [teacher in Jordan’s class] that he wasn’t well and wasn’t in school today.  I was told by Mrs Price [Melissa’s teacher] that she was not in school either due to sickness.  NO CONTACT.  The school secretary told me that both children were in school yesterday 23/6/03 and on the day after [25/6/03]. 

[GW stated via his solicitor on 27/6/03 that when J & M became aware that I was attending sports day, they became hysterical.  Jordan’s teacher Miss Baker told me that Jordan was subdued on the day after sports day and that after asking him some general questions she was led to believe that GW had influenced Melissa and that he had to just go along with {what his father was priming them to say to the social workers.}]

GW visited the GP surgery.  It is stated in the medical records on 24/6/03: Was in Glan Clwyd hospital last week with temp, sore throat.  All examination and test NAD [nothing abnormal detected.]  Felt sick last night.  Bowels ok.  Afebrile [pulse] ok.  Throat, chest, ears, abdomen clear [NAD]. 

28/6/03 NO CONTACT and no message.  This is despite Elaine saying that she would be telling GW on 27/6/03 that he has to comply with the court order and allow… encourage contact with me.

29/6/03 NO CONTACT.

On 30/6/03 Pat Williams told me that Elaine had been unable to contact GW by phone last Friday 27^th because it was either engaged or he wasn’t answering it.  Instead she wrote to him telling him to encourage contact.

On 1/7/03 I went to the eye clinic because of Jordan’s check up.  Jordan and I played in the waiting room.  He was close and loving and behaved as if there had never been a break in contact.  GW was on best behaviour too.  At 3pm I collected J & M from school.  They both came to me quite eagerly and happily as if nothing had happened recently.  Melissa grinned from ear to ear when she saw me, fell into my arms at the school gates and then took my hand and skipped all the way to Llysfaen park.  She said that daddy went to the police station to get me into trouble but that she wouldn’t talk to the policeman because she didn’t want me to go to jail.

On Tuesday 8^th July after school Mel came to me looking relieved and she had a shy little grin.  She fell into my arms complaining that her legs hurt and she wanted carrying.  All she wanted to do was go home.  She nearly fell asleep on my shoulder.  At home I sat her at the kitchen table while I prepared her a drink and when I turned around she was asleep, slumped over the table.  She ate nothing.  All evening she just wanted to sleep and she complained of a sore throat and that her ears and shoulders hurt.  She said that she felt sick and she coughed constantly.  She also had a high temperature.  I stripped her off, sponged her with cool water, gave her Calpol and plenty of fluids.  By 9pm I was so worried because she was burning up that I phoned the GP.  I was put through to emergency.  The advice was to continue what I was doing.  No antibiotics are given because the illness is viral.  At 3.00 am, the fever had passed.  By morning she was much better and in good spirits so I sent her to school.    She didn’t have much breakfast though.  Her teacher Mrs Price told me later that she hadn’t eaten much in school.  Mel told me that she had to lie down in class.  After school Wednesday 9^th July she wanted to play in the park but after only a few minutes she felt weak, wanted carrying and wanted to go home.  She only picked at her tea.  As soon as she got into bed her fever returned.  She didn’t complain of pain though but she coughed a lot.  In her sleep she was murmuring, “Want mummy.  Want mummy.”  By 2.00 am her body temperature had returned to normal.  By morning she was perky again and seemingly much better.  She ate ½ a round of toast only though.  Fearing a relapse I kept her off school.  All day Thursday 10^th July she was happy and contented and constantly asking me for cuddles and telling me that she loves me and that she doesn’t like daddy.  She coughed a little bit.  She ate, but only a little; all day she had just a small amount of chicken, a few chips, 2 bags of crisps and a couple of biscuits.   At 5.10pm I took her to her new GP Dr Bisarya for a check over.   He said that her temperature is normal, her tonsils slightly enlarged but not infected, and that her breathing is fine.   He gave her the all clear and advised that if she gets feverish again in the night to give Calpol or Nurofen.  Before bed she was singing and dancing to Lion King.  She slept soundly and her temperature remained normal.  On 11/7/03 I had a job getting her and Jordan up for school.   She coughed constantly and even made herself vomit phlegm.  In between the coughing she was bright and bubbly but she wouldn’t eat much, only a ¼ packet of crisps.

14/7/03 GW attended the GP surgery and obtained for Melissa: Valv-spacer device [for asthma], Salbutamol inhaler and Beclometasone inhaler.

During the school summer holidays GW breached the TELEPHONE CONTACT court order. He allowed me telephone contact on one evening only – 27^th August ’03.  On 6^th August ’03 GW did say that I could speak to my children, however it appeared that they were not allowed to say anything to me and after a few seconds of me trying to get a response, GW put the phone down.  On all the other days, GW either refused to answer his phone on the stated times in the c/o or his phone was switched off.  GW told more lies when he instructed his solicitor to write to me [24/7/03] accusing me of not allowing him telephone contact.  GW did not phone me on the dates stated in the c/o or at any other time.

20/8/03 GW took Jordan to eye clinic for syringing of eye duct.

9/9/03  Jordan had an appointment re his hearing at ENT, Glan Clwyd Hospital at 11am.  GW failed to take him and he did not contact the hospital with any messages.  I tried to phone him but GW failed to answer his phone.  I waited one and a quarter hours and was told there was no point waiting any longer as the clinic was about to close.  In reply to our letter to Amphletts requesting an explanation, they write [3/10/03] “Our client informs us that Jordan did not attend his check up as he was unaware of such an appointment having been made.”  Strange how I knew!!! In his October ’03 statement he admits that he failed to take Jordan for his ear and eye appointments and he blames me, saying that he couldn’t face any more confrontation.  He is inconsistent with his excuses and is therefore obviously lying.

19/9/03 I kept Melissa off school because she was constantly coughing during the previous night.  She brightened up during the day, coughed only now and again and was bubbly and loving, but she had diarrhoea and didn’t eat much.  Over the weekend she complained of her shoulder hurting and of aching.  She took a nap on Sunday afternoon [21/9/03] and didn’t eat much.  She coughed only occasionally.  She was in bright spirits though all weekend and playing happily indoors.  She went to school on Monday 22^nd Sept. 

23/9/03 Jordan had an appointment at 1.30 pm at the Eye clinic in Colwyn Bay hospital.  GW failed to take him and he did not notify the clinic.  I waited 35 minutes and was told by Orthoptist Mrs Osley not to bother waiting any longer because Jordan’s appointment had been taken.  I was also informed that there will not now automatically be another appointment for Jordan.

14/10/03 Melissa’s teacher Miss Baker told me that Melissa isn’t in school today.  She said that GW told her she wasn’t well; she has a cold.  She said that he brought her to school but that she stayed in the car.  ONLY JORDAN CAME FOR CONTACT.   NO CONTACT with Mel.  Jordan told me that Melissa wasn’t ill.

15/10/03 NO CONTACT with Melissa.  She wasn’t in school.  Miss Baker said that there had been no messages.

On 16/10/03 Mel was in school and I picked her up at 3pm.  She coughed constantly all night.  She went to school on 17^th Oct though.  It is stated in the medical records: Patient appointment cancelled.

20/10/03  Mel was coughing a lot over the weekend, especially at night.  This morning [Monday] as I was getting her dressed for school I noticed a whispy rash on her belly.  It looks like the start of Impetigo to me.  I showed Miss Baker it in school and she thinks it looks like Impetigo too.  I asked her to mention it to GW and to advise him to take Melly to the GP for some cream.  She said she would. 

4/11/03  As Mel was changing out of her school uniform at 4pm she pointed out to me a whispy red rash that is on her inner thigh, close to her genital region.  She complained of it hurting when walking.  I suspect it was caused because she doesn’t dry herself properly after using the loo at school or her father’s.   Jordan told me that his father smokes all the time.  That makes J & M passive smokers when they are with him.  No wonder Mel has asthma and always has a cough.  GW should not smoke when the children are around as it is bad for their health.  They will now be more susceptible to bronchial disease and even possibly lung cancer.

3/12/03 I found out via school that GW had been in to remove J & M not long after I had dropped them off in class and that he had allegedly taken them both to the GP.  This was during the time the children were residing with me.  The Headmaster Geraint Williams told me that GW had been to see him to explain that he had medical concerns about both children.  The Head said that he is aware of the court order re medical matters but that if either parent has any medical worries he will not stop either parent taking the children out of school to visit their GP whenever they feel it is necessary.  I told him that I would agree with that if it is GENUINE.  I added that in this case it is suspicious; why would both children need to be seen so urgently by the GP and at the same time?  The Head could not elaborate on what GW’s medical concerns are and he advised me to contact the GP.  I did so and discovered that GW had not taken the children to the GP.     

8/12/03 J & M both have nasty colds.  They have chesty coughs.  Last night Mel awoke complaining of her shoulders aching and of her constant coughing.  On the previous night [6/12/03] she was running a high temperature.  I gave her calpol.  Mel has been quite perky and bubbly during the day times although she hasn’t been eating much these last couple of days and her motions have been very moist [she didn’t have diarrhoea though.]  She has been coughing constantly for the past few days and it gets so much worse during night times.  

15/12/03 When I collected J & M from school Mel’s teacher handed me a bottle of half used antibiotics and informed me that Mel had been ill last week.  She had been sick and had had earache and had not been well in class.

During the latter end of the February half term holiday J & M were unwell.  On the weekend of 21^st and 22^nd Feb 2004 Melissa complained of tummy, shoulder and back ache.  She vomited once and her motions were loose.  Her body temperature was normal and she slept ok at night-time though.  She also took an afternoon nap.  She ate only small amounts of weetabix, toast and crisps.  She felt well enough to watch telly, read and play on the game cube though.  Jordan was ill off and on during the same weekend.  His eyes were very watery and he complained of headache occasionally and that his ears hurt when he coughed.  He had some mucus in his eyes and I feared that he was getting conjunctivitis again.  He ate more than Mel but not as much as he usually does and was able to help Shelly with the dogs.  On the morning of Monday 23^rd Feb, both J & M were complaining of feeling ill again, saying that they didn’t want breakfast and didn’t want to go to school.  I took them to the GP.  He said that neither has a fever or swollen glands or infected ears and he prescribed a viral infection - the common cold.  He advised giving them plenty of fluids and some Calpol and for them to inhale Olbas oil in steam.  I asked when they should return to school and the GP said that they would probably be over the worst in a day or so.   As I did not want GW to collect the children at my house, I took them to school in their uniforms at home time [just before 3pm] in a taxi.  I had earlier phoned the Head to put him in the picture.  At 3pm the School secretary witnessed me informing GW on the secretary’s phone the recent events and what the GP had advised.  

On 1/3/04 [Monday] I collected J & M from school at 3pm.  Ms Ventry [Mel’s teacher] informed me that GW had taken Melissa to school last Tuesday but that he had to return not long after to pick her up because she was not well.  She was off school on Wednesday and Thursday [25^th & 26^th Feb] also.  Jordan did not have any more days off.

On 10/3/04 I requested my children’s medical records from Dr Bisarya since October ’03.  I was sent a copy of the review that had been carried out on Melissa’s speech and language development on 9/1/04.  I had not known about this appointment or the assessment that Mel had had in August ’03.  I had asked Cynfran school to make sure that I am notified of such appointments.   

The observations of the speech therapist are that Mel seems uncertain of future/past tenses.  Her understanding of language needs to be monitored.  She is also assessed as having an immature use of grammar, although she gained an age appropriate score for providing satisfactory information in her sentences.  A home programme has apparently been provided to help improve Melissa’s skills.  However I have not been sent such a programme.   It was Cynfran school who referred Melissa.  The facts remain though that Mel would not have such difficulties if she didn’t have to attend school [Mrs Price once told me that the majority of the children cannot speak correctly] and she was not under so much influence by her abusive father, who cannot speak correctly himself [as is evidenced in his court statement.]

On 13^th March 2004 I received a copy of a letter that Dr Groves wrote to Bethan Lloyd [Young Persons Health Advisor] on 16^th January 2004 re Jordan.  It was sent by Dr Groves’ secretary after I had been advised to contact Dr Groves by the GP surgery.  On 17^th March 2004 I received a copy of a Memo that Dr Groves wrote to Bethan on 13^th January 2004 re Melissa. 

1/4/04 Mel’s teacher told me that Melissa had twice during the day complained of ear ache, so she was kept in instead of going out during playtime.

25/5/04 Mel’s teacher Miss Baker told me that Mel had complained of headache in class.  Mel was coughing quite a lot during the night.

26/5/04 Mel was coughing quite a lot during the night.  She was fine during the day though.

31/5/04 In the early hours of the morning Mel woke up crying for me and just wanting to be close to me. 

2/6/04 It is stated in Mel’s medical records: Since yesterday cough & lt earache - afebrile throat - ears nad - no glands - no rash - chest clear - well in herself - dad advised paracetamol & inhalations.  See sos.

3/6/04 It is stated in Mel’s medical records: c/o ear ache – sore throat – general malaise – o/e tonsillitis – awaiting tonsillectomy - for antibiotic therapy advised fluids +++ and calpol 4 hrly.

FOR ONE WEEK, 7^th June 2004 – 14^th June 2004 GW denied me contact.  NO CONTACT.  He also kept them off school that week.  He told school that Mel had tonsillitis.  He made referrals to the NSPCC and Police saying that he had concerns about their safety whilst being with me.  He stated that J & M were saying that they did not want to come to me because I’d told them they are going to die.  He stated that the authorities had advised him not to return the children to my care or school.  Social workers Pat Williams and Elaine Buckley said that that wasn’t true.  GW refused to cooperate with them during that week.  After finally interviewing the children, they told GW that the evidence does not support his allegations; the inference being that he had been priming them again.  Elaine told him to allow me to have contact on Monday 21^st June as according to the court order.   In the meantime Shelly and I were allowed to see J & M at school during their lunch time on 16/6/04.  Jordan told us that he doesn’t like his dad and that his dad had told him and Mel to repeat their father’s lies.

On Monday 21^st June, I collected the children from school.  They came to me with big smiles, all happy and bubbly and chatting to the dozen.  They both hung onto my arms.  Melissa’s teacher told me that staff are starting to notice what is really going on.  J & M were wearing the exact same old, tatty clothes [including the old tight fitting shoes with gaping holes] that GW always dresses them in on changeover day.  This was after his complaint to Elaine re uniforms and after she had told him to throw away those old shoes.  Miss Baker was a witness.

On Saturday 26^th June Jordan disappeared from Eirias Park when he was with Melissa and Shelly, just before they were about to head for home.  GW alleged that Jordan had walked from my house to his house.  He called police and referred to Social Services.  He would not allow me to see Jordan and I did not see him for the rest of the weekend.  I had NO CONTACT with Jordan on Saturday 26^th June after I left the house at 9.10am or Sunday 27^th June or Monday 28^th June.  When I dropped Melissa off at school on Monday 28^th Jordan was not there.  He turned up mid morning.  School were not given a reason as to why he was late.  Jordan was not in school on Tuesday 29^th June because he had a ‘cold’.  It was sports day that day and GW knew that I would be there.  He was preventing me reassuring and comforting Jordan and finding out what really happened after he was separated from Shelly.   

28/6/04 In Jordan’s medical records it is stated: cold like symptoms – cough – none productive – nil of note of examination. 

On Tuesday 6^th July 2004, on our way to school Melissa complained of toothache so I contacted her dentist.  [I used to take J & M to see dentist Mr Shaw before August 2002 when J & M lived with me.  I was told by GW’s solicitors that he had changed their dentist to Mr Ferguson who is at the same practice.]  Today I learned that J & M have been deregistered because they were last seen by a dentist in October 2002.  I recall phoning the practice after receiving Amphletts’ letter on 7^th January 2003 which states the children “have perfect teeth and he has a certificate to prove this.”  I was told then by the practice that J & M were receiving regular checkups.    

Jordan’s and Mel’s annual school report [dated July ‘04] state that J attended 343 out of 358 days i.e. he was absent 15 days i.e. 3 weeks.  Mel attended 323 out of 358 days i.e. she was absent 35 days i.e. 7 WEEKS.  In the past year I kept Mel off school only on TWO days and Jordan off only on ONE day. The teachers tell me that the absences were due to ‘illness’, mainly ‘colds’.  Mel’s teachers said that often she would attend school but her father had to pick her up early because she wasn’t well.  Strange that that didn’t happen when she was living with me!  Jord’s ‘general progress’ bit states that he is “easily distracted from his work and possibly under achieving.  He must be careful not to be easily led into mischief by other children.”  That is one big reason why school is not a good place for kids to be learning.  J & M are not affected by other kids when they learn at home.  It is not surprising that he is distracted anyway.  How could any kid concentrate when he/she is being subject to horrendous abuse by one of his/her parents?  

13/9/04 Melissa has a cold again.  She is nearly always ailing when she comes to us after having stayed with her father.  Also her bottom is red raw.  Obviously her father still does not check that she has wiped herself properly after using the loo. 

4/10/04  After we’d been to the park for 1 ½ hours yesterday [Saturday], Mel complained of headache on the way home.  She wouldn’t eat anything for tea and just wanted her bed.  She slept from 5.30pm Saturday, right through until this morning [Sunday].  She was absolutely fine though all Sunday – eating and playing happily.   

7/10/04 According to medical records, Melissa had influenza vaccination.

26/10/04 Mel was sick today after she’d eaten lunch.  She said that she’d been sick at her dad’s too, yesterday.  Apart from a bit of a cough, she is otherwise fine – playing happily and not complaining of any pain or discomfort anywhere.  She’d had a hearty breccy and also snacks and was perfectly fine when she was cycling along the prom and at the park.  She was ok yesterday too and had slept well last night.

28/10/04 Mel has been coughing now and again over the past few days.  She is otherwise well and happy though - eating and sleeping well and not complaining of pain.

4/11/04 According to medical records, Melissa had influenza vaccination.

6/12/04 [Monday], Mrs Jones, school secretary phoned me to say that GW had been into school today to tell her that he was going to take Melissa to the GP and that he would bring her to school at 3pm for the changeover.  She said that he had just phoned [at 2.30pm] to say that Mel won’t be in school, that the doctor says she has tonsillitis and that he should take her home to bed.  Mrs Jones said that the message is that she will stay at her father’s until the tonsillitis clears up.  I asked if Mel was off school ill last week.  She found out from Mrs Morgan that Mel was in school Monday 29^th Nov until Wed 1^st Dec and that she left school early on Thursday 2^nd Dec because she wasn’t well – she was sleepy and had a cough and a cold.  She was off school on Friday 3^rd Dec.  I had NO CONTACT with Melissa 6/12/04–13/12/04.  GW IS BREACHING THE C/O YET AGAIN.  It states that in the case of illness, changeover is still to take place on school premises at 3pm.  Illness is no excuse for preventing the children going to the other parent, unless the child is so ill that he/she is hospitalised.  GW is clearly in breach of the court order because he didn’t take Mel to the doctor on Thursday or even Friday of last week, he left it until Monday – CHANGEOVER DAY.  Dr Bisarya confirmed that GW had taken Melissa to see the GP on Monday 6^th Dec but he could not give me any further information.  One of my worries is that Melissa might be admitted to hospital and I would not be notified.  She might even have her tonsillectomy without my knowledge.  Over the next few days, GW DID NOT provide me with any information via his solicitor or school.  When I tried to phone him he pretended not to hear me, he just kept saying, “Hello, hello, hello” in exactly the same way that he did whenever Pat Williams [social worker] tried to phone him.  He then hung up.  He kept Melissa off school all week.  He could’ve arranged through school for me to collect Melissa by car at any time during school hours on school premises.    According to her medical records, she was seen again by the GP on Thursday 9^th December.  It is recorded that she is “much improved now”.  So why didn’t GW arrange for me to collect her at 3pm on Thursday or even on Friday so that she could have been with us for at least the weekend?  She was in school on 13/12/04.

27/1/05 Melissa had her tonsils and adenoids removed.  This was during GW’s week to have the kids.  She was discharged on 28/1/05.  Prior to this, for a few days, she had suffered a sore throat, cough and cold.  GW behaved despicably throughout her stay in hospital.   He was constantly scurrying off to snitch on me - making the usual malicious allegations to the nurses and trying to have me removed.  GW did not bring Mel to school on 31/1/05 for the changeover despite being told by the medics that Mel was well enough to come to me in accordance with the C/O, such that he would be in breach if he did not comply.  School secretary Mrs Jones tried to contact him but he did not answer his phone.  He did bring her to school on 1/2/05 for me to collect her.  He told me that she had been complaining that her ears were hurting and that he had taken her to the GP whereby the practice nurse had said that her tonsil area was weeping.  Amoxicillin 125mg was prescribed.  I had NO CONTACT with Mel on 31/1/05.  I collected Jordan from school on 31/1/05.  He had a cough and cold.  By 1/2/05, after school, he was very listless and complaining of a sore throat.  He also had bloodshot eyes and just wanted to sleep.  I kept him off school on 2/2/05.